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Don't Ask Me To Forgive You! A Radical Approach to Healing Interpersonal Wounds

4.50 CE Hours Available

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In this workshop, Dr. Spring presents a radical, new alternative to forgiveness - a profound, life-affirming, healing process called Acceptance. You’ll learn ten concrete steps for helping hurt parties make peace with the past, including how to release an obsessive preoccupation with the injury, choose a level of relationship with the offender that makes the most sense, and correct self-injurious assumptions about what happened.


Vintage courses do not offer ASWB ACE credit to social workers


Participants will be able to describe:

  • Assumptions about what it means to forgive
  • Why current models of forgiveness offend so many
  • Why narcissists refuse to forgive and others forgive too easily
  • A radical, new alternative which allows hurt parties to become physically and emotionally healthy?without forgiving an unapologetic offender
  • Concrete guidelines for helping offenders (such as unfaithful partners) earn forgiveness
  • Guidelines for helping hurt parties foster forgiveness


Assumptions About What It Means to Forgive

  • Is forgiveness good for us?
  • Is forgiveness a private gift or an interpersonal exchange?

Cheap Forgiveness & Refusing to Forgive

  • Why narcissists refuse to forgive
  • Why others forgive too easily
  • Why refusing to forgive and forgiving too cheaply are unhealthy

Acceptance - A Radical Alternative

  • What hurt parties can do to heal themselves, including:
  • Release their obsessive preoccupation with the injury and need for revenge
  • Frame the offender?s mistreatment in terms of the offender?s personal damage and life stresses

Acceptance - A Radical Alternative, continued

  • Correct misperceptions about the offender and the offense
  • Challenge their official story about their innocence
  • Forge a relationship with offenders that serves their best interests

Genuine Forgiveness
What offenders must do to earn forgiveness, including:

  • Challenge the assumptions that block their ability to make meaningful repairs
  • Bear witness to the pain they caused
  • Make an effective apology
  • Seek to understand their behavior so they never repeat the transgression
  • Work to earn back trust

An Experiential Exercise
What hurt parties can do to foster forgiveness